1- Talking to Strangers Book by Malcolm Gladwell
Talking to Strangers
In 1938 Neville Chamberlain, then Prime Minister of Britain, went to Munich to meet with Adolf Hitler. His purpose was to get a read on Hitler’s character. Although initially fearful of the possibility of war, Chamberlain left thinking that Hitler was trustworthy.
While most of us don’t have to make a character judgment that influential, we do judge one another daily. You’ve probably thought you knew how someone was feeling already today. We do it all the time, whether at parties, work, or just walking down the street.
If you think you’re good at getting a read on people, you’re wrong. Everybody we see has different experiences and perspectives, and it’s hard to tell what they’re thinking. In Malcolm Gladwell’s newest book Talking to Strangers: What We Should Know about the People We Don’t Know, he dissects why we’re so bad at judging others and what to do about it.
Here are the 3 most helpful lessons I’ve learned about how we talk to strangers:
- You are overestimating your ability to read what people are thinking or feeling.
- Humans naturally default to believing that others are telling the truth and are incapable of telling when someone is lying.
- One reason you’re so bad at judging people is that everybody expresses their emotions and thoughts differently.